Critical Factors for Raising an Empowered Child: Part 1, Teaching Children About Authority; A Lesson in Self-Knowledge by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth: a DVD for Empowering Parents and Kids

by Susan A. Haid

There are several simple but critically important keys for raising empowered children. We can give our kids the tools they need, starting at a very young age. These tools will empower them throughout their lives as they grow, yet they are core values that will evolve more fully as time passes. Let me first state that by core values, I am referring to values that develop and mature from within the child and are not imposed upon the child from the outside. The point is to nurture the growth of concrete navigational equipment that is rooted from within the child and stems from the child’s own personal life experience. This will result in a powerful form of self- knowledge, otherwise referred to here as “authority,” that is ultimately deeply empowering because it is the result of actual life experience. There is no better teacher than experience itself.
There are 17 basic fundamental concepts to begin with. In this article I will be addressing the first key concept which is authority. For kids, this can be a confusing subject depending on the information they are given. The bottom line, if we are to cultivate empowerment within a child, is that we must support our children in developing their innate understanding of themselves, who they are, what they think, what they feel, and what they believe. By this, I mean that we must help our children to understand themselves from the inside out first, rather than imposing concepts upon them from the outside. We must help our children not only to understand but also respect what they think, feel and believe about their life experiences. As parents, we must help our children learn to trust their feelings, instincts, thoughts and reactions. If we separate our kids from this basic and often protective information, we have unwittingly initiated their path of separation from themselves and their consequent ability to move through life in a way that is constructive and healthy.
We must become very good listeners who can listen without judgment. First and foremost, we must listen to, honor and respect the thoughts and feelings of our children. Why is this so important? You see, as a child tells us their story, our listening without imposing judgment or giving advice acknowledges the individuality of their experience and validates and values their thoughts and feelings. This allows the child’s own discovery process to unfold. This allows the child’s problem-solving abilities to develop. And most potently, this allows the child to remain fully connected to their innate and natural abilities to trust their own feelings, ideas, instincts and consequent decisions about their life experiences. This supports the development of a core value system that will be difficult to challenge because it comes from within and is based on personal, real world knowledge.
How important is this key concept of self-knowledge and authority? It is critical. By supporting kids in developing self-knowledge, we help them cut through the confusion. Confusion is based in having to weigh and balance who they truly are with who they feel they are supposed to be. There is only one true answer. In addition, often along with the development of self-understanding comes compassion, and what more valuable “core value” is true and abiding compassion?

As parents, we can give our children the confidence to trust themselves in any situation by nurturing their innate ability to choose what is compassionate for themselves and others.  This eliminates the possibility of selfish, self-serving behavior yet honors each person’s right to choose for themselves.  This also leads to the development of inner clarity so that abusive people and situations are seen for what they truly are.

This is true authority. It has absolutely nothing to do with the concept of power, and this is the type of guidance our children need to live healthy, happy, fulfilling lives.

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What is a Mother? by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

What is a “Mother?” This is not just a word that describes a female parent. This is not one who is a servant. This is not one who exists to meet the needs and expectations of others. A “Mother” is one who holds the energy of Compassion. A “Mother” is there to nurture and to heal if that is what she wants to do. She is there to sing a song or to play a game, to sooth a bruise, or to make a heavy situation light.

She lets herself fly so that those around her might join her.

There are those who would keep her energy contained. With one ounce of freedom, she can light the skies on fire! With what, you might ask, a dish mop and a broom? I say to you again, she can light the skies on fire! She can change the world and others will follow. When she speaks, you must listen to what is in her heart. You say you have heard it all before. But her song, her note, must be played for you once again. You have only heard her speak to you in a whisper.

At night, when the moon is full, she will sing and she will dance, and she will set the night on fire.

The howls of the wolves speak the very same language as she. She will howl at night when the moon is full, not to be seen, but she will be heard and others will follow.

When will she do these things, this lighting of the skies, this howling at the moon? When will she be seen? Is she not brave enough to show herself to the world?

It is the light from within the darkness that touches the soul. She has chosen to come at exactly the right time and in exactly the right way.

And in her choosing, she will honor herself. She will cherish her own words. She will respect her faith in herself. She will set the night on fire, again and again.

It is because you have been sleeping that you have not seen her or heard her. She wishes you to soar along with her, but you will not let go.

If you heard her call, would you recognize it? It is like no other. You would know her by her sound, but you must possess a keen mind to understand her message. Is it wild, you ask? No, it is unlike any other call. Is it sorrowful, you ask? No, she will not embody sorrow. There is no other call like it. What is this sound, then, this sound that I have never heard, you ask?

It has magic surrounding it, this call. The unheard sound is profound. It speaks through a gesture or through a glance, in a wink or a smile. Compassion shows through so many things, like crystal reflecting a rainbow prism of light. She uses this tool as the answer. So insignificant you believe this to be. It is not profound. It is not what is needed. It cannot heal. It does not make change. It is sweet to say so, but there is so much more than this, or so you believe.

So you control and you fight and you fret and you wonder. How will the world survive? Where is the light? Where is the song, the answer, the truth? Who do we follow? What do we say? What will become of us? We are frightened. We are alone. And we don’t know what to do.

Within this struggle, you must eventually let go. You must succumb to what you feel, what you need, what you long for. It is there. It has been there for eons. She speaks but you will not listen to her. She knows you have been lost. She knows the answer to All. Her Call is inside you. Her Call will be there until there is no tomorrow.

She lights the night on fire, and yet you question, you doubt. It is there, but you fight it.

Can you let the magnificence begin? Can you allow yourself to be heard?

Hope.
Faith.
Love.
Compassion.

It is all We need and You are here. You are all that is needed.

It is time to transcend old ideas about “Mother.” “Mother” is not a servant. “Mother” is the Magi. “Mother” is the Healer. “Mother” carries the energy of the light within the darkness.

It is time to release Your Call in all its glory. You can trust Your Voice because Yours is the Voice that speaks with Compassion. Yours is the Voice of Change. Yours are the Words that Soothe. Yours are the Words that Heal. Yours are the Words that Enlighten. Yours are the Words that Empower. Yours are the Words that bring Light to the Darkness. This is Your Call…and others will follow.

She lets herself fly so that those around Her might join Her.

And at night, when the moon is full, She will Sing and She will Dance, and She will Set the Night on Fire.

For more helpful information about empowering families, parents and children, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

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