5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

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DSCN7804 Supporting the development of self-worth in kids has been a highly debated topic often marked by complaints of overindulgence, unjustified praise or constant ego-boosting. Amidst the heated debates, however, there is an elegant solution to this very fragile and misunderstood concept.

Initially, children have blind trust in the world and in their caregivers. For a short period of time during a child’s early years, the reasons for this are obvious. And, it goes without saying, the safer the environment, the better for the child.

Eventually, however, the child must engage with the world as it is, as painful and as challenging as that may be. So, let’s cut to the quick. What can we do about this?

Well, we can do a lot, quite frankly, using a few simple yet powerful tools.

Although it may sound counterintuitive, the first seed we can plant within our child’s budding awareness is the idea…

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5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions.

Critical Factors for Raising an Empowered Child: Part 1, Teaching Children About Authority; A Lesson in Self-Knowledge by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth: a DVD for Empowering Parents and Kids

by Susan A. Haid

There are several simple but critically important keys for raising empowered children. We can give our kids the tools they need, starting at a very young age. These tools will empower them throughout their lives as they grow, yet they are core values that will evolve more fully as time passes. Let me first state that by core values, I am referring to values that develop and mature from within the child and are not imposed upon the child from the outside. The point is to nurture the growth of concrete navigational equipment that is rooted from within the child and stems from the child’s own personal life experience. This will result in a powerful form of self- knowledge, otherwise referred to here as “authority,” that is ultimately deeply empowering because it is the result of actual life experience. There is no better teacher than experience itself.
There are 17 basic fundamental concepts to begin with. In this article I will be addressing the first key concept which is authority. For kids, this can be a confusing subject depending on the information they are given. The bottom line, if we are to cultivate empowerment within a child, is that we must support our children in developing their innate understanding of themselves, who they are, what they think, what they feel, and what they believe. By this, I mean that we must help our children to understand themselves from the inside out first, rather than imposing concepts upon them from the outside. We must help our children not only to understand but also respect what they think, feel and believe about their life experiences. As parents, we must help our children learn to trust their feelings, instincts, thoughts and reactions. If we separate our kids from this basic and often protective information, we have unwittingly initiated their path of separation from themselves and their consequent ability to move through life in a way that is constructive and healthy.
We must become very good listeners who can listen without judgment. First and foremost, we must listen to, honor and respect the thoughts and feelings of our children. Why is this so important? You see, as a child tells us their story, our listening without imposing judgment or giving advice acknowledges the individuality of their experience and validates and values their thoughts and feelings. This allows the child’s own discovery process to unfold. This allows the child’s problem-solving abilities to develop. And most potently, this allows the child to remain fully connected to their innate and natural abilities to trust their own feelings, ideas, instincts and consequent decisions about their life experiences. This supports the development of a core value system that will be difficult to challenge because it comes from within and is based on personal, real world knowledge.
How important is this key concept of self-knowledge and authority? It is critical. By supporting kids in developing self-knowledge, we help them cut through the confusion. Confusion is based in having to weigh and balance who they truly are with who they feel they are supposed to be. There is only one true answer. In addition, often along with the development of self-understanding comes compassion, and what more valuable “core value” is true and abiding compassion?

As parents, we can give our children the confidence to trust themselves in any situation by nurturing their innate ability to choose what is compassionate for themselves and others.  This eliminates the possibility of selfish, self-serving behavior yet honors each person’s right to choose for themselves.  This also leads to the development of inner clarity so that abusive people and situations are seen for what they truly are.

This is true authority. It has absolutely nothing to do with the concept of power, and this is the type of guidance our children need to live healthy, happy, fulfilling lives.

For more helpful information about building authority within children, visit http://www.lilystruth.com where you will find more exciting and supportive details.

Building Core Values In Children: Home Course For Families by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

Raising children to become conscientious, empowered, responsible and joyful adults who are in complete charge of their lives is what we strive for as parents. If you could give your kids the skills and the tools to do this, it is something you would do in without a second thought. I am going to be direct and to the point here. There is a course available to you now that can give you the resources to build core values in your children at home. You see, I began putting this information together over a decade ago when my first child was born. I wanted something different for my kids…something that would cut through the confusion and give them the knowledge to move through life with self-confidence, authority, faith and keen, razor-sharp clarity.
The nuts and bolts skills I offer came as a result of my own life experience. Although I am an educated woman, I believe that life experience is our ultimate teacher. I have put every ounce of wisdom I possess into my Core Values Home Course. I want life to be better for my kids and for yours, so I painstakingly set about distilling my experiences into practical knowledge for parents and their families. I have studied many spiritual paths over the course of my life and culminated my experience into very simple, all-encompassing basic lessons. These are real world lessons with real world tools. I know that the information I have to offer you is valuable. I know this because once I understood these life lessons and put them to work in my own life with my own kids, our lives unfolded gently into a life of joy, fulfillment and empowerment. This material has helped and supported me and my children so completely that I am making it available to all families.
The course I have designed is called Lily’s Truth. There are 17 chapters that give clear, concise and complete information on these concepts:

1. Authority
2. Trust
3. Individuality
4. Standards
5. Communication
6. Rights
7. Faith
8. Beliefs
9. Passion
10. Commitment
11. Letting Go
12. Courage
13. Appreciation
14. Acceptance
15. Love
16. Peace
17. God Within All Life

The course is available as a DVD/CD multimedia package or as a book. This artful and beautiful 2- hour production comes complete with music, illustrations and narration. This project truly extends from my heart to yours. My intent is to make the journey through life easier for our kids than it has been for us. My intent also is to offer parents support in their job. This gift is for you, your children and your families.
Very soon, I will be offering a workshop that will teach the above skills through play via an exciting game for parents and kids alike. If you are interested in this workshop, contact me at my website for further details.
Finally, if you have any questions about this project, please contact me, Susan A. Haid, at contact@lilystruth.com. My website is www.lilystruth.com. I hope to hear from you, and I hope to continue to offer outstanding parenting products so that we can raise our children better than ever before.

Building Core Values in Children; New Insights in Parenting by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

There is a dilemma in parenting right now regarding the concept of “core values.” How does a parent build core values in a child? Let’s begin by talking about the innate and natural abilites that exist within a child by making the assumption that there is, in most people, the ability to self-regulate. We must understand this self-regulation mechanism and understand its value in parenting.

To begin with, let me present a metaphor. When a person stands up, there is something called “equilibrium” that takes place. Balance is something that is acquired as one learns to stand up and walk as babies do; babies learn with practice how to build the skills needed to learn to walk about without trouble. Of course, assistance is necessary in the toddler years, but proficiency grows with each new step. After trial and error, and some will-power to grow, the changes occur within ourselves to become efficient walkers. There is nothing about the mechanisms of this but trial and error. It is the same with learning to grow spiritually and building core values within oneself. There is not a lot about it that requires great strength. It has a way of beginning and growing from within itself all on its own, yet most profoundly through experience.

Children are not seekers of great truth; it overwhelms them. A sadness occurs within each child, a sadness that remains when values are imposed which force upon them a highly restrictive right-wrong system of living…a system which may shut down and confuse their innate ability to make conscious, conscientious choices. Instead, maybe we should let children teach themselves in as many situations that reasonably allow for it. Within the perimeter of a safe setting, we can let our kids figure out which side of the fence they’re on. They can choose which is the “right” side or the “left” side. We should understand that each way brings with it its own choices and discoveries. Neither choice is the “right” way or the “wrong” way. Each choice is valid.

This type of learning is experiential. It has its merits. The question, “Which way is the right way?” should be replaced with, “Which way will I choose?” and “How will I decide?” This method supports the development of corrective mechanisms as well as creative opportunities for growth. The struggle may be there, yes, it will be. At least in the face of a struggle, there is an opportunity for growth and change. In the midst of struggle, a desire comes forth that commands our attention. We must be seen, heard and understood for who we are. This resonates clearly as we ring forth our truth like a great brass bell.

This method requires a parent to step outside of older models of parenting into new territory. But it seems to me that the knowledge and the skills a child builds through this exercise comes from within their own domain of experience. This is a very powerful form of learning that far outweighs the benefits of mere rhetoric.

Consider this parenting method in this light; have you ever questioned yourself? As you struggle to find your answer, finally, you let go, knowing you did what you thought was best. You let go. You then must ask yourself, are you “left” or “right”? Whatever the answer, it tells a story. It is a story of answers. The answers speak to you, and you self-regulate. Just like a baby learning to walk.

Sure, there might be a few bumps and bruises along the way. But the main thing is, you learned to walk. You now stand tall and proud.

For more insightful and supportive information on parenting and conscious living as well as information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

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