The Effective Parent by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

A Tool for Effective Parents & Empowered Kids

A Tool for Effective Parents & Empowered Kids

By Susan A. Haid

Here are Ten Principles of the Effective Parent:

1) Offer your children committed love. Let your children know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you love them and you will always love them no matter what. Make this a clear and consistent message.

2) Become the best educator of your children’s basic life skills that you can be. This is far more valuable than what you can ever buy them.

3) Teach your children to trust themselves more than anything else. Keep your children connected to their innate inner navigational equipment. Do not underestimate the power of self-trust; this is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give your child.

4) Give your children reasonable freedom to make choices for themselves. There is only one finer teacher than you are, and that is life experience itself.

5) Give your children the gift of time to themselves without tv or technology. This opens the doorway to imaginative play that cultivates a powerful, lasting form of creativity and resourcefulness that serves a child for a lifetime.

6) Make every effort to offer compassion to your child, even when discipline or consequences are required. Children are learning and therefore require explanations, education and understanding more than anything else. Make compassion your best friend.

7) Listen to what your children have to say, even if their words are contradictory. They have a lot to figure out in a very complex world. Listen and be present.

8) Give your children reasonable, basic responsibilities. Everyone in a household should contribute to the welfare of the family.

9) Enjoy your children for who they are. As parents, we have no other responsibility other than to honor and appreciate who our children already are.

10) Stop whatever you are doing and openly accept and receive your child’s love. Revel in it! Take the time to bask in it as often as possible. There is no greater gift you will ever receive. Let it heal you.

For helpful information about joyful, effective parenting and raising empowered children, visit www.lilystruth.com for more.

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Spiritual Parenting by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

By Susan A. Haid

Let’s take a look at who our children really are. Our children are fully self-contained, sovereign, spiritual beings who have thier own individual connection to The All. As parents, what does this mean? It means that we honor the divine being within our children, and we help them to maintain their own personal relationship to The All/God Within. We raise our children as souls. And as souls, we honor and recognize the individuality and the uniqueness of our kids and their path.

This is such a beautiful way to parent. Our primary purpose is to keep our children connected to their own inner sense of authority and trust of self. Kids, naturally, are always looking for approval and acknowledgement from the outside. The more we cultivate the child’s trust of themselves, their own instincts, and their own innate knowledge, the more we do to empower them in this moment and into the future.

Life has become very complex for our children. As we feel bombarded by information in this worldwide technological age, we can only imagine what it is like for our kids to integrate this vast expanse of information. The time has come for us to step into the role as supporters and facilitators of our child’s growth through their life experiences in a complex world, rather than the controllers who attempt to mold and force the identity of a child. This requires a great deal of acceptance, patience and presence as a parent. We can begin by fully accepting all that we are as parents, human beings and divine beings. We also must release our fears and controls and trust the perfection of life.

This takes some confidence as a parent to value life experience without labeling these experiences as “good” or “bad”. All experiences have value and worth. Without judgment, we can help our kids move through their life experiences with freedom and empowerment rather than guilt, anger or shame. We can also help our kids to continually move forward through life without holding on relentlessly to the past.

Let’s teach our kids some basic yet empowering concepts to serve them throughout life:

1) Trust themselves. Trust every choice & every thought as part of their perfect spiritual journey. There is honor in all experience.

2) Honor their inner authority. Listen to the voice within at all times. This builds self-respect and self-worth.

3) Honor the Divine Self or God Within. When children understand that God is Within or better said, We Are God Also,  they will cultivate their inner connection rather than seek outside of themselves for answers. This will build an everflowing connection to their divine and masterful spiritual authority.

This is the foundation for Spiritual Parenting. It requires growth and conscious awareness on our part so that we can fully support our kids in unfolding into their Grand Beingness. As parents, this is a most priviledged and magnificent journey filled with great joy and adventure. Here, we walk through the doorway of our spiritual evolution together to see and experience the majesty of who we really are.

For more exciting information about spiritual parenting and empowering kids, visit http://www.lilystruth.com for specific materials that support the spiritual parenting process.

Building Core Values In Children: Home Course For Families by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

Raising children to become conscientious, empowered, responsible and joyful adults who are in complete charge of their lives is what we strive for as parents. If you could give your kids the skills and the tools to do this, it is something you would do in without a second thought. I am going to be direct and to the point here. There is a course available to you now that can give you the resources to build core values in your children at home. You see, I began putting this information together over a decade ago when my first child was born. I wanted something different for my kids…something that would cut through the confusion and give them the knowledge to move through life with self-confidence, authority, faith and keen, razor-sharp clarity.
The nuts and bolts skills I offer came as a result of my own life experience. Although I am an educated woman, I believe that life experience is our ultimate teacher. I have put every ounce of wisdom I possess into my Core Values Home Course. I want life to be better for my kids and for yours, so I painstakingly set about distilling my experiences into practical knowledge for parents and their families. I have studied many spiritual paths over the course of my life and culminated my experience into very simple, all-encompassing basic lessons. These are real world lessons with real world tools. I know that the information I have to offer you is valuable. I know this because once I understood these life lessons and put them to work in my own life with my own kids, our lives unfolded gently into a life of joy, fulfillment and empowerment. This material has helped and supported me and my children so completely that I am making it available to all families.
The course I have designed is called Lily’s Truth. There are 17 chapters that give clear, concise and complete information on these concepts:

1. Authority
2. Trust
3. Individuality
4. Standards
5. Communication
6. Rights
7. Faith
8. Beliefs
9. Passion
10. Commitment
11. Letting Go
12. Courage
13. Appreciation
14. Acceptance
15. Love
16. Peace
17. God Within All Life

The course is available as a DVD/CD multimedia package or as a book. This artful and beautiful 2- hour production comes complete with music, illustrations and narration. This project truly extends from my heart to yours. My intent is to make the journey through life easier for our kids than it has been for us. My intent also is to offer parents support in their job. This gift is for you, your children and your families.
Very soon, I will be offering a workshop that will teach the above skills through play via an exciting game for parents and kids alike. If you are interested in this workshop, contact me at my website for further details.
Finally, if you have any questions about this project, please contact me, Susan A. Haid, at contact@lilystruth.com. My website is www.lilystruth.com. I hope to hear from you, and I hope to continue to offer outstanding parenting products so that we can raise our children better than ever before.

How to Teach Your Children about Responsibility: 5 Tips For Ages 5 -12/PART 2 by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

Every time I mandate that my three children, ages 3 to 10, help with the dishes, housecleaning, laundry, pets or some other mundane task, I prove to myself over and over again how important these experiences are for my children. Of course, their contribution makes my life easier. However, I clearly see that they are not only quite capable of accomplishing these tasks, they are learning to take responsibility for their own life in the process.

Here are five tips to teach kids how to take responsibility around the home and for their developing lives.

1. Help kids learn how to organize and manage their belongings.  We need to require that our kids clean their rooms, make their beds, put their own laundry away, keep track of their homework and school projects, sports gear, musical instruments and so on. Once in a while, we can give them a hand, but kids should know that they are the ones ultimately responsible for these duties.
2. Help kids become active contributors to life at home.  Every member of a home should contribute to the upkeep and management of the home. Age appropriate duties should be assigned to each family member, and once every week or two, the family should work together to accomplish these tasks. Duties such as dusting, vacuuming, sweeping, wiping down the countertops, raking leaves and even cooking are jobs kids of all ages can participate in. These duties give our kids the skills to become competent contributors as adults.
3. Help kids learn to set boundaries so they honor their own needs as well as respect the needs of others.  This is a fundamental lesson parents need to teach their kids. It’s OK in many circumstances to say no. We want our kids to stay in touch with what they may need and give them the skills to meet those needs. We also want our kids to be aware that everyone has the right to set boundaries when they are appropriate and necessary. This is a basic life skill.
4. Help kids learn to be accepting of differences.  Having nonjudgmental conversations about the differences we encounter in the viewpoints, lifestyle, beliefs and ideas of others is a basic tenet of building a philosophy of acceptance and compassion in our kids. These are great conversations to have because they ultimately help our kids get clear about who they are, what they think and what they believe. This also means that our kids should have a safe place to express their individual viewpoint even if it is different from our own.
5. Help kids accept the outcome of their choices and create new ones.
It is the ultimate empowerment experience when kids make their own choices and have their own resulting experiences. As parents, of course we need to be aware of what our kids are choosing so that we can intervene if it is necessary to do so. Although it is often difficult to give up control, we simply can’t make every decision for our kids. This deprives them of their experiences, the consequences of which are far less during childhood compared to adulthood. As often as it is reasonable to give our kids the authority to make choices for themselves, we should do so and understand we are respecting their individuality, honoring their learning process and building their knowledge of and confidence in themselves.

These are basic requirements that have worked well in my home so far. I respect the rights of my children to live freely and happily. As their mother, I want my kids to have the skills to manage their lives very well without me or without the help of anyone else if they choose. I want to help my children become empowered and sovereign. By giving them reasonable responsibilities and expectations, I hope to provide them with the simple knowledge about how to successfully manage their own lives after they leave home. And ultimately, I want them to soar!

For more helpful information about empowering children, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

How to Teach Your Children about Responsibility: 5 Tips for Kids Ages 5-12/ PART 1 by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

How long of a tether do you keep on your kids? The struggle for authority is an age-old dilemma. Who chooses? How much authority should we give our kids? Freedom is something we all need, yet how do we structure our lives so that we get what we need and our children have the appropriate setting in which to make their own choices, learn and grow?
As long as our kids are at home with us, there is a safety net beneath them. Certainly we want the most for our children. We want them to surpass our goals and achieve ones of their own. So we want them to grow. We want them to face challenges. As parents, where do we begin? How do we know what is appropriate, and how do we know exactly what our kids need to do to learn responsibility? This is a nagging question, and although there is no easy way through the parenting process, there are certain basic things we can do to help our kids become responsible adults.
Here are 5 basic strategies to help kids learn the basics:

1. Help kids develop knowledge of themselves and appreciation of their individuality.  We must give our kids the freedom to choose which activities and interests they wish to explore. It is our job to facilitate their discovery of their individual and very personal interests by listening to who they are and what they tell us. This means we do not impose our interests and ideas upon them. After offering to them various different opportunities, we accept and support their choices without judgment.
2. Help kids take ownership of their choices. We need to look at every experience our kids have as an opportunity to cultivate self-understanding. This means that when our kids make choices for themselves, they learn to evaluate the consequences without judgment from us. This gives them time to figure out certain life lessons for themselves within the parameter of a safe setting. This is far more impactful that mere rhetoric from us. We are here to listen and offer support during this process. It is a tremendously valuable experience to let our kids make reasonable choices cradled within the opportunity to start over when things don’t turn out as anticipated.
3. Help kids learn how to manage their time. As parents, we help our kids to do this by setting forth our expectations of their responsibilities for the day (homework, athletic or music practice, chores etc.) and then allowing them to accomplish their duties independently, of course with a gentle reminder or two along the way. There should be reasonable consequences in place for failure to accomplish general expectations.
4. Help kids to accept their feelings without judgment. This starts with our ability to accept our own feelings without judgment. Our kids observe how we accept, experience and appropriately express our feelings. This gives them the standard for accepting and expressing their own feelings. Then, we must give our kids the space to appropriately feel their feelings without judgment. This gives our kids the beautiful knowledge about how to take responsibility for their own feelings when they are in a safe space to do so.
5. Help our kids to set their goals for the day, weeks or months ahead. We must set aside some time to listen to what our kids are hoping to experience in the days, week and months ahead. This gives us the opportunity to discuss what might be possible for our child to accomplish and experience with our help and support. This helps our kids learn how to take charge of their life by actively pursuing their developing interests by making them become a reality.

Setting forth strict and uncompassionate guidelines deprives our kids of their ultimate authority in the long run. Conversely, setting forth no guidelines whatsoever undermines the development of a child’s sense of authority and mastery over their life.
Let kids see the results of their own choices. Let them hear the impact of their own words. They must be able to experiment with the world before them.
Part 2 of this article coming soon! In the meantime, for more information about conscious parenting, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

Can You Teach Your Child About Trust? Empowering Kids In a New Way by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

If you are anything like me, then you want your children to be able to tell the difference between the people they can trust and the people they can’t. Not only are these skills important for kids to learn during childhood, but these are vitally important skills they will carry into adulthood. There aren’t any common conventional ways to teach this important concept to kids, but I can give you some simple techniques that can help.
The single most important thing we can teach our children is to trust their perceptions, feelings and instincts. This means we should validate what our children see and feel, reflecting back to them that their perceptions are accurate. These natural protective mechanisms are so quickly and easily shut down in young children. Kids are often taught to override their natural instincts and hide their reactions in lieu of behaving in a manner that is considered polite, acceptable or appropriate.
We all have been culturally conditioned not to trust what we see and feel at the most fundamental level. We must admit that this has not served our best interests. This deficiency surely is not one we want to foster in our children, yet this conditioning has become akin to a virus…everyone does it. It should be perfectly acceptable for children to express what they see, what they think, and what they feel merely to have the important experience of having their viewpoint and feelings validated. We can help them learn to trust themselves. We can also teach our kids how to express themselves in a respectful yet honest way. If our children can trust themselves implicitly, then they will be able to take care of themselves perfectly well in almost any situation.
We must ensure that our kids have the opportunity to live as freely as possible, trusting their innate ability to know and to choose what is right for them. If we do, we will be proud to watch our children make choices that serve them well.

For more information about Techniques for Building Trust in Our Children, or for more details about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit http://www.lilystruth.com.

How to Empower Your Children by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

 

Lily's Truth

Lily's Truth

by Susan A. Haid

 

So you want to be happy?  You should be happy.  You truly deserve to be happy.  In fact, you should be more than content.  You should be more than modestly gratified.  You should be and can be living an intoxicatingly, ecstatic existence.  In this world of tremendous challenge and confusion, you can be deliriously happy.  You can find your passionate life.  You, yes, you can find yourself swimming in a glorious, clear limpid pool of unlimited fulfillment.  And what’s best of all, when you learn to do it, your kids will learn to do it, and so on and so on.

 

            But before you dive in to that indulgent pool of supreme rapture, there are a few fundamental concepts to contemplate.  I am going to get you started with the first basic lesson I have to offer.  I will be brief and to the point, but the work, the real work, is then up to you.  You see, you may not understand where I am leading you just yet, but you are going on a journey.  Pack very lightly.  All you need is some time and a Kleenex or two.  Let’s be on our way…

 

            Now, don’t be put off by my first question.  I can assure you that after many years of experience, most people don’t know the authentic answer to this question; do you know who you are?  Do you really know what YOU think, what YOU believe, and most tellingly, what YOU feel?

 

            You see, you may think you do, and perhaps you do.  If so, you have accomplished an amazing feat in a world that constantly tells us who we should be, how we should look, how we should act and what we should be doing.  The pressure to live up to this artificial standard is aimed point blank at our hearts.  The bullets are delivered through a constant bombardment of external, unrealistic, unloving messages that shoot mercilessly and painfully from all directions at once.

 

            What ultimately happens, then, is that we lose touch with our most basic truth: ourselves.

 

            So ask yourself these simple questions as a contemplative exercise, “Who am I?  What do I think?  What do I believe?  What do I feel?”  As you do this, take a look at who you are expected to be by others.  What is the identity you have created for yourself that serves the needs, beliefs and ideas of others?  As you are delving within yourself, don’t be ashamed of what you might find.  You may laugh.  You may cry.  You may see that you have denied, covered-up, or buried the beautiful, original creature you truly are.  You have done it in love and service to others.  And this is an honorable thing.

 

            But the idea of self-sacrifice is an old and outdated one.  Now is the time to throw convention to the wind.  Now is the time to let go of all the beliefs you have about yourself and your world.  Now is the time to rise and shine.  And, there is only one path to follow; you must liberate the truth within yourself.  It will require strength.  It will require courage.  Above all, it will require self-knowledge.  It will catalyze the birth of your rightful self.  It is the single most empowering act you will ever accomplish.  There is no more denying you, the REAL you.  And as you are like a phoenix rising, remember also that this is the greatest gift you will ever give to yourself, your children and the world.

 

For more exciting information about conscious living and conscious parenting, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

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