The Effective Parent by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

A Tool for Effective Parents & Empowered Kids

A Tool for Effective Parents & Empowered Kids

By Susan A. Haid

Here are Ten Principles of the Effective Parent:

1) Offer your children committed love. Let your children know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you love them and you will always love them no matter what. Make this a clear and consistent message.

2) Become the best educator of your children’s basic life skills that you can be. This is far more valuable than what you can ever buy them.

3) Teach your children to trust themselves more than anything else. Keep your children connected to their innate inner navigational equipment. Do not underestimate the power of self-trust; this is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give your child.

4) Give your children reasonable freedom to make choices for themselves. There is only one finer teacher than you are, and that is life experience itself.

5) Give your children the gift of time to themselves without tv or technology. This opens the doorway to imaginative play that cultivates a powerful, lasting form of creativity and resourcefulness that serves a child for a lifetime.

6) Make every effort to offer compassion to your child, even when discipline or consequences are required. Children are learning and therefore require explanations, education and understanding more than anything else. Make compassion your best friend.

7) Listen to what your children have to say, even if their words are contradictory. They have a lot to figure out in a very complex world. Listen and be present.

8) Give your children reasonable, basic responsibilities. Everyone in a household should contribute to the welfare of the family.

9) Enjoy your children for who they are. As parents, we have no other responsibility other than to honor and appreciate who our children already are.

10) Stop whatever you are doing and openly accept and receive your child’s love. Revel in it! Take the time to bask in it as often as possible. There is no greater gift you will ever receive. Let it heal you.

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Critical Factors for Raising an Empowered Child, Part 2: Teaching Children About Death by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth: a DVD for Empowering Parents and Kids

Freedomby Susan A. Haid

Teaching children about death depends of course on what you believe about death yourself. This article is based on my own personal experience with death and how I have handled the subject with my own children. These recommendations are for parents and caregivers who believe in the eternal nature of the soul. These recommendations are for those who want to change the old viewpoint of death replacing it with a new and enlightened understanding of what death really is. Ultimately, this is a gift to our children because they will have the opportunity to live, and die, peacefully without fear.
As the teachers of our children, death is something we must come to understand ourselves. It is critical that we move beyond the domain of “beliefs” into the realm of experience. We can teach our children what we believe or we can teach our children from the standpoint of our experience. There is no finer teacher than experience itself.  All we ever really need is an open mind to receive pure, unadulterated knowledge.
Now, here we could get into a lengthy conversation about “consciousness” and how it is NOT confined by the human body. Consciousness can travel anywhere at any time and knows no limits. This can be experienced by anyone and everyone in a body or not in a body.  So, what does this tell you about death?  Maybe it implies that death is simply a change of focus so to speak. Now, some would say that the experience of consciousness is just product of the imagination. But for those of us who have played with journeys in consciousness, well, our experiences simply cannot be explained away. Our experiences go far beyond the realm of the imagination and are powerful lessons in the true nature of the soul. So, because of my own vast experience over the past 25 years, I smile at the limited and controlled point-of-view that leads some people to deny the unlimited nature of our being. And if you need your own proof, I encourage you to seek and you will find.
This brings us back to the very basic lessons we give our children about death. Based on this very brief conversation, this is what we can teach our kids:

Lesson Number 1: Death is not an end to life, it is a continuation of life.  As all scientists know, energy never dies it simply changes form.  We never die, we simply change form.

Lesson Number 2: We are not just human beings, we are Consciousness Beings. Consciousness is not confined to the human body. It can move anywhere at any time. Death is a release of Consciousness from the human body only. This is all death really is…much like taking off your heavy winter coat and walking from one room to another. And remember that Consciousness is Unlimited. There are many amazing implications to being an Unlimited Being. Children are not yet locked down within the trap of limited belief systems…let them live freely and openly with very simple information that supports the truth of their existence and life experience. There is just no need for oppressing, complex teachings.

Lesson Number 3: Our reality is defined by our beliefs. Let us give our children the greatest gift of all by releasing all fear teachings about judgment and condemnation associated with death. These are very old beliefs that are based upon control. In my humble opinion, it is a violation of the pureness of a child to impose fear, judgment and condemnation into the heart of a child. And how can any person die in peace with any dignity whatsoever when they are wracked with guilt, fear and shame? For many of us, COMPASSION is the single most important teaching we can engender in our children. When compassion is rooted firmly in the heart of any person, there is truly no need for teachings based upon fear, shame, guilt and control. I have three loving, kind and generous children. I speak from experience.

Death is a part of life. In our family, we have experienced the transition of those who were very, very old and those who where very, very young. Death is never an easy event to face. But death is something we can experience through new eyes in a new way. Death can be experienced with dignity, honor and sweet celebration of the life lived. What is never to be forgotten is that death in not a final goodbye, it is simply a change of residence.

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What is a Mother? by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

What is a “Mother?” This is not just a word that describes a female parent. This is not one who is a servant. This is not one who exists to meet the needs and expectations of others. A “Mother” is one who holds the energy of Compassion. A “Mother” is there to nurture and to heal if that is what she wants to do. She is there to sing a song or to play a game, to sooth a bruise, or to make a heavy situation light.

She lets herself fly so that those around her might join her.

There are those who would keep her energy contained. With one ounce of freedom, she can light the skies on fire! With what, you might ask, a dish mop and a broom? I say to you again, she can light the skies on fire! She can change the world and others will follow. When she speaks, you must listen to what is in her heart. You say you have heard it all before. But her song, her note, must be played for you once again. You have only heard her speak to you in a whisper.

At night, when the moon is full, she will sing and she will dance, and she will set the night on fire.

The howls of the wolves speak the very same language as she. She will howl at night when the moon is full, not to be seen, but she will be heard and others will follow.

When will she do these things, this lighting of the skies, this howling at the moon? When will she be seen? Is she not brave enough to show herself to the world?

It is the light from within the darkness that touches the soul. She has chosen to come at exactly the right time and in exactly the right way.

And in her choosing, she will honor herself. She will cherish her own words. She will respect her faith in herself. She will set the night on fire, again and again.

It is because you have been sleeping that you have not seen her or heard her. She wishes you to soar along with her, but you will not let go.

If you heard her call, would you recognize it? It is like no other. You would know her by her sound, but you must possess a keen mind to understand her message. Is it wild, you ask? No, it is unlike any other call. Is it sorrowful, you ask? No, she will not embody sorrow. There is no other call like it. What is this sound, then, this sound that I have never heard, you ask?

It has magic surrounding it, this call. The unheard sound is profound. It speaks through a gesture or through a glance, in a wink or a smile. Compassion shows through so many things, like crystal reflecting a rainbow prism of light. She uses this tool as the answer. So insignificant you believe this to be. It is not profound. It is not what is needed. It cannot heal. It does not make change. It is sweet to say so, but there is so much more than this, or so you believe.

So you control and you fight and you fret and you wonder. How will the world survive? Where is the light? Where is the song, the answer, the truth? Who do we follow? What do we say? What will become of us? We are frightened. We are alone. And we don’t know what to do.

Within this struggle, you must eventually let go. You must succumb to what you feel, what you need, what you long for. It is there. It has been there for eons. She speaks but you will not listen to her. She knows you have been lost. She knows the answer to All. Her Call is inside you. Her Call will be there until there is no tomorrow.

She lights the night on fire, and yet you question, you doubt. It is there, but you fight it.

Can you let the magnificence begin? Can you allow yourself to be heard?

Hope.
Faith.
Love.
Compassion.

It is all We need and You are here. You are all that is needed.

It is time to transcend old ideas about “Mother.” “Mother” is not a servant. “Mother” is the Magi. “Mother” is the Healer. “Mother” carries the energy of the light within the darkness.

It is time to release Your Call in all its glory. You can trust Your Voice because Yours is the Voice that speaks with Compassion. Yours is the Voice of Change. Yours are the Words that Soothe. Yours are the Words that Heal. Yours are the Words that Enlighten. Yours are the Words that Empower. Yours are the Words that bring Light to the Darkness. This is Your Call…and others will follow.

She lets herself fly so that those around Her might join Her.

And at night, when the moon is full, She will Sing and She will Dance, and She will Set the Night on Fire.

For more helpful information about empowering families, parents and children, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com.

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