5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

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DSCN7804 Supporting the development of self-worth in kids has been a highly debated topic often marked by complaints of overindulgence, unjustified praise or constant ego-boosting. Amidst the heated debates, however, there is an elegant solution to this very fragile and misunderstood concept.

Initially, children have blind trust in the world and in their caregivers. For a short period of time during a child’s early years, the reasons for this are obvious. And, it goes without saying, the safer the environment, the better for the child.

Eventually, however, the child must engage with the world as it is, as painful and as challenging as that may be. So, let’s cut to the quick. What can we do about this?

Well, we can do a lot, quite frankly, using a few simple yet powerful tools.

Although it may sound counterintuitive, the first seed we can plant within our child’s budding awareness is the idea…

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5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions.

Spiritual Parenting by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

By Susan A. Haid

Let’s take a look at who our children really are. Our children are fully self-contained, sovereign, spiritual beings who have thier own individual connection to The All. As parents, what does this mean? It means that we honor the divine being within our children, and we help them to maintain their own personal relationship to The All/God Within. We raise our children as souls. And as souls, we honor and recognize the individuality and the uniqueness of our kids and their path.

This is such a beautiful way to parent. Our primary purpose is to keep our children connected to their own inner sense of authority and trust of self. Kids, naturally, are always looking for approval and acknowledgement from the outside. The more we cultivate the child’s trust of themselves, their own instincts, and their own innate knowledge, the more we do to empower them in this moment and into the future.

Life has become very complex for our children. As we feel bombarded by information in this worldwide technological age, we can only imagine what it is like for our kids to integrate this vast expanse of information. The time has come for us to step into the role as supporters and facilitators of our child’s growth through their life experiences in a complex world, rather than the controllers who attempt to mold and force the identity of a child. This requires a great deal of acceptance, patience and presence as a parent. We can begin by fully accepting all that we are as parents, human beings and divine beings. We also must release our fears and controls and trust the perfection of life.

This takes some confidence as a parent to value life experience without labeling these experiences as “good” or “bad”. All experiences have value and worth. Without judgment, we can help our kids move through their life experiences with freedom and empowerment rather than guilt, anger or shame. We can also help our kids to continually move forward through life without holding on relentlessly to the past.

Let’s teach our kids some basic yet empowering concepts to serve them throughout life:

1) Trust themselves. Trust every choice & every thought as part of their perfect spiritual journey. There is honor in all experience.

2) Honor their inner authority. Listen to the voice within at all times. This builds self-respect and self-worth.

3) Honor the Divine Self or God Within. When children understand that God is Within or better said, We Are God Also,  they will cultivate their inner connection rather than seek outside of themselves for answers. This will build an everflowing connection to their divine and masterful spiritual authority.

This is the foundation for Spiritual Parenting. It requires growth and conscious awareness on our part so that we can fully support our kids in unfolding into their Grand Beingness. As parents, this is a most priviledged and magnificent journey filled with great joy and adventure. Here, we walk through the doorway of our spiritual evolution together to see and experience the majesty of who we really are.

For more exciting information about spiritual parenting and empowering kids, visit http://www.lilystruth.com for specific materials that support the spiritual parenting process.

What do YOU Want? by Amanda van der Gulick

By Amanda van der Gulick

“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.

“For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.

“I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”

Anonymous

I review this poem on a regular basis to remind myself to ask for MORE. I deserve MORE and so do YOU!

Ask for what you REALLY WANT!

Cheers….Amanda van der Gulik…Excited Life Enthusiast!
http://www.TeachingChildrenAboutMoney.com
http:/www.cleverdoughkids.com/mindmoviefreebie.html

I Want More…by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

By Susan A. Haid

The consant demands in today’s ever-changing world leave us reeling. Can we handle this stress? Yes, it is real and dynamic. We want to close ourselves off from reality and recompose ourselves. If it is true that life is self-regulating, then how do we find respite in a constantly shape-shifting world? We find ourselves saying that we can’t take it anymore, we want to let go, we want more than anything to be free. But how?

Can we trust that there is a larger design to life…something that we can’t comprehend? Is there more? Is it what we are looking for? Where will all of this change lead us? It is overwhelming.

So where do we go from here? Are we lost or are we simply moving to a higher level of existance? If we take a look at the geographical evolution of Planet Earth, large scale change is often a destructive process. As we all know, we can weather only so much destruction in our own lives before we break and shatter to pieces. How much more will there be for us to endure? The course of humanity is in a period of tremendous shifting in consciousness, and we are not over it yet.

I could give you the typical platitudes that everything is going well, that change is a good thing, that humanity will survive etc., etc. but I don’t really want to do that. A little whining and complaining sometimes is a good thing too. It relieves stress. And after all is said and done, we choose in what moment we want to live.

We can control the outcome, you see. We can see into the future if we want to. It’s all about choice. What we choose to do now in this moment will unfold into time. Whose life is this anyway? Choose. Are you willing to be abundant? Are you willing to be free? Can you allow yourself to give from your joy and your pleasure? Set your sights on a better tomorrow and energy will follow.

Allow yourself to flow through your experiences as the truth of your moment. But then the moment is gone, and you are here again finding your way in a new moment of time. This is how reality gets constructed. The answer is not “out there.” Reality is a work-in-progress, and we are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.  We are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.  We are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.

So the question becomes, what do you want? We hold the handle on progress. We create change.

Where we stand right now in this moment in time is a product of our former choices.

So, now we know what we know. We can begin again with awareness and with consciousness. And with this knowledge, we can set the stage for what is to come. We don’t need to fight. We don’t need to worry.

Take care of the moment and the rest will take care of itself. You are in charge. Remember that You are the Creator here.

I am here to tell you these three things:
1) You are right where you should be.
2) If you want more, you are in charge.
3) Change comes from within yourself. You are the Creator.

You are the Creator.

What more could you ask for than this?

For more exciting and enlightening information visit http://www.lilystruth.com to learn about Lily’s Truth.

Smokin’ Hot Mama by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

Over the past 46 years of my life, I have learned a thing or two about myself. There has been nothing extraordinary about me or my life circumstances. I am an ordinary woman who has lived an ordinary life. Well, except for the part of me that talks to dead people. But hey, other than that one little thing, I’m just a normal gal. That is another story for another time. In spite of my otherwise conventional life, I have come to a place where I can fully accept myself…all of me…the good, the bad, the ugly, the normal and the not-so-normal. Although this might seem to be a natural evolution of maturity, it is actually a profound transformation that forever changes everything. What I now know is that a little bit of “crazy” can be a good thing, a very good thing indeed.
You see, when I started to live freely without self-judgment, then I started truly living. I no longer care about the full figure I am wearing at midlife. Instead, I can see my own beauty, even if society cannot. I wear clothes that are comfortable, flowing and lovely. I no longer worry about dieting. I concern myself only with joy, health and balance. Happiness certainly must be correlated with health and longevity, but I don’t need a scientific study to prove it. If I happen to die a premature death, I die a happy person. So there you are.
Later in life, I have taken up belly dancing, opera singing and painting just for the fun of it. I don’t expect to be very good at these things but I do have fun. At this point in life, having fun is, well, just so much more fun than being good. And I love that I don’t have any rules to follow…hmmm, when did the rules get to be so important anyway?
When I am with other people, I don’t care about anything other than just having a good time. In fact, my bottom line has become all about the fun factor. I now choose to be around people who can laugh and be merry, who are lighthearted and joyful, and yes, who can party like there is no tomorrow. Although it may be irreverent, I can laugh at almost anything. After throwing a party, I chuckle at the number of wine bottles in my recycle bin.
I love to be with people who are accepting and free-spirited. I seek out friends who have no need or desire to view the world through the eyes of judgment and control. I believe in progress through conscious awareness but not through moral condemnation. The one thing I still need to work on is my acceptance of self-righteous, condemning people; I avoid them like the plague and have not found my peace within their presence as of yet. In fact, these folks irritate me more than anyone else, at least for now. In spite of my overall Zen demeanor, these types still cause me to bristle. But my new, enlightened strategy is to find a way to joke about it. My current irritations are great fodder for some very funny stuff as you might imagine; humor really does diffuse the irritation.
I engage in conversations freely and openly, no longer worrying about what I might say. I am authentic and true to myself. I try to laugh as much as possible whenever and wherever possible. I am serious by nature, but I am learning the art of living with grand humor. I have learned to laugh at myself, and OMG, I am hilarious.
It no longer matters to me that my kids are not the most well-behaved children on the block or may not get the best grades. What matters to me is that they are learning through their own experience and cultivating their own brand of wisdom of which self-acceptance is a part. In liberating myself, I have unwittingly liberated my children. This alone is profound and very blessed.
I don’t worry about morality because that is just another form of judgment and control. Instead I live by my one cardinal rule which is Compassion. My life became very simple and unencumbered when I finally let go of all my silly judgments and rules. I didn’t suddenly become wildly reckless and outrageously irresponsible as a result. I have become instead deeply loving and accepting of all people and all ways of living. This also helped me see the world quite clearly. Mostly, I can feel my own joy, and it feels really, really good.
In my past life, I had a perfect body, a gorgeous face and lots of attention from men (not to mention a whole boatload of repression). Today, what really tickles my fancy is that it is no longer the men who tell me that I’m sexy, it’s the women. I have had many women blurt out that they think I’m sexy, and I can assure you that there is nothing about me that meets our cultural standard of “sexy.” I am full-figured, fine-lined, stretch-marked, saggy, baggy and perfectly, ecstatically, joyfully happy. I have thrown my head back and laughed out loud more than once when told by a woman that I am sexy. However, what these women are sensing is an inner sexy that has nothing to do with superficial appearances.
I am wearing the look of genuine warmth, joy, peace and acceptance, and these attributes are monumentally magnetic in a world weary of surface appearances, masks and games. In telling my story, I am telling the story of liberation, acceptance, true happiness and lasting beauty that never ages, needs Botox or loses sex appeal. At midlife, I am one smokin’ hot mama.
If I am fortunate enough to become a smokin’ hot granny, I hope I am that ridiculous old gal who wears a rhinestone-studded cowboy hat, an oversized t-shirt and thigh-high vinyl boots when she dances for her lover. I hope I break a few ribs with extreme, insufferable, side-splitting laughter. I hope I have a few too many glasses of cabernet and way too much chocolate. I hope I love everyone I meet with shameless, furious, passionate abandon. I hope to become an eccentric old bird who didn’t waste a moment of her life on the things that don’t really matter. If I get my way, I have about 40 smokin’ hot years left, and there’s no good reason I can think of for turning back now.
Does this mean I am going to ride off naked into the sunset on a Harley? Maybe it does. And from now on, when you hear me counting calories, I am just figuring out how hot it’s getting in here. Oh, and can you pass me a fork? I’m digging in…

For more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth visit www.lilystruth.com.

Critical Factors for Raising an Empowered Child: Part 1, Teaching Children About Authority; A Lesson in Self-Knowledge by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth: a DVD for Empowering Parents and Kids

by Susan A. Haid

There are several simple but critically important keys for raising empowered children. We can give our kids the tools they need, starting at a very young age. These tools will empower them throughout their lives as they grow, yet they are core values that will evolve more fully as time passes. Let me first state that by core values, I am referring to values that develop and mature from within the child and are not imposed upon the child from the outside. The point is to nurture the growth of concrete navigational equipment that is rooted from within the child and stems from the child’s own personal life experience. This will result in a powerful form of self- knowledge, otherwise referred to here as “authority,” that is ultimately deeply empowering because it is the result of actual life experience. There is no better teacher than experience itself.
There are 17 basic fundamental concepts to begin with. In this article I will be addressing the first key concept which is authority. For kids, this can be a confusing subject depending on the information they are given. The bottom line, if we are to cultivate empowerment within a child, is that we must support our children in developing their innate understanding of themselves, who they are, what they think, what they feel, and what they believe. By this, I mean that we must help our children to understand themselves from the inside out first, rather than imposing concepts upon them from the outside. We must help our children not only to understand but also respect what they think, feel and believe about their life experiences. As parents, we must help our children learn to trust their feelings, instincts, thoughts and reactions. If we separate our kids from this basic and often protective information, we have unwittingly initiated their path of separation from themselves and their consequent ability to move through life in a way that is constructive and healthy.
We must become very good listeners who can listen without judgment. First and foremost, we must listen to, honor and respect the thoughts and feelings of our children. Why is this so important? You see, as a child tells us their story, our listening without imposing judgment or giving advice acknowledges the individuality of their experience and validates and values their thoughts and feelings. This allows the child’s own discovery process to unfold. This allows the child’s problem-solving abilities to develop. And most potently, this allows the child to remain fully connected to their innate and natural abilities to trust their own feelings, ideas, instincts and consequent decisions about their life experiences. This supports the development of a core value system that will be difficult to challenge because it comes from within and is based on personal, real world knowledge.
How important is this key concept of self-knowledge and authority? It is critical. By supporting kids in developing self-knowledge, we help them cut through the confusion. Confusion is based in having to weigh and balance who they truly are with who they feel they are supposed to be. There is only one true answer. In addition, often along with the development of self-understanding comes compassion, and what more valuable “core value” is true and abiding compassion?

As parents, we can give our children the confidence to trust themselves in any situation by nurturing their innate ability to choose what is compassionate for themselves and others.  This eliminates the possibility of selfish, self-serving behavior yet honors each person’s right to choose for themselves.  This also leads to the development of inner clarity so that abusive people and situations are seen for what they truly are.

This is true authority. It has absolutely nothing to do with the concept of power, and this is the type of guidance our children need to live healthy, happy, fulfilling lives.

For more helpful information about building authority within children, visit http://www.lilystruth.com where you will find more exciting and supportive details.

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