5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

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DSCN7804 Supporting the development of self-worth in kids has been a highly debated topic often marked by complaints of overindulgence, unjustified praise or constant ego-boosting. Amidst the heated debates, however, there is an elegant solution to this very fragile and misunderstood concept.

Initially, children have blind trust in the world and in their caregivers. For a short period of time during a child’s early years, the reasons for this are obvious. And, it goes without saying, the safer the environment, the better for the child.

Eventually, however, the child must engage with the world as it is, as painful and as challenging as that may be. So, let’s cut to the quick. What can we do about this?

Well, we can do a lot, quite frankly, using a few simple yet powerful tools.

Although it may sound counterintuitive, the first seed we can plant within our child’s budding awareness is the idea…

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5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions

5 Keys to Raising Children of Worth; A Spiritual Perspective by The Parenting Sessions.

Spiritual Parenting by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

By Susan A. Haid

Let’s take a look at who our children really are. Our children are fully self-contained, sovereign, spiritual beings who have thier own individual connection to The All. As parents, what does this mean? It means that we honor the divine being within our children, and we help them to maintain their own personal relationship to The All/God Within. We raise our children as souls. And as souls, we honor and recognize the individuality and the uniqueness of our kids and their path.

This is such a beautiful way to parent. Our primary purpose is to keep our children connected to their own inner sense of authority and trust of self. Kids, naturally, are always looking for approval and acknowledgement from the outside. The more we cultivate the child’s trust of themselves, their own instincts, and their own innate knowledge, the more we do to empower them in this moment and into the future.

Life has become very complex for our children. As we feel bombarded by information in this worldwide technological age, we can only imagine what it is like for our kids to integrate this vast expanse of information. The time has come for us to step into the role as supporters and facilitators of our child’s growth through their life experiences in a complex world, rather than the controllers who attempt to mold and force the identity of a child. This requires a great deal of acceptance, patience and presence as a parent. We can begin by fully accepting all that we are as parents, human beings and divine beings. We also must release our fears and controls and trust the perfection of life.

This takes some confidence as a parent to value life experience without labeling these experiences as “good” or “bad”. All experiences have value and worth. Without judgment, we can help our kids move through their life experiences with freedom and empowerment rather than guilt, anger or shame. We can also help our kids to continually move forward through life without holding on relentlessly to the past.

Let’s teach our kids some basic yet empowering concepts to serve them throughout life:

1) Trust themselves. Trust every choice & every thought as part of their perfect spiritual journey. There is honor in all experience.

2) Honor their inner authority. Listen to the voice within at all times. This builds self-respect and self-worth.

3) Honor the Divine Self or God Within. When children understand that God is Within or better said, We Are God Also,  they will cultivate their inner connection rather than seek outside of themselves for answers. This will build an everflowing connection to their divine and masterful spiritual authority.

This is the foundation for Spiritual Parenting. It requires growth and conscious awareness on our part so that we can fully support our kids in unfolding into their Grand Beingness. As parents, this is a most priviledged and magnificent journey filled with great joy and adventure. Here, we walk through the doorway of our spiritual evolution together to see and experience the majesty of who we really are.

For more exciting information about spiritual parenting and empowering kids, visit http://www.lilystruth.com for specific materials that support the spiritual parenting process.

I Want More…by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

By Susan A. Haid

The consant demands in today’s ever-changing world leave us reeling. Can we handle this stress? Yes, it is real and dynamic. We want to close ourselves off from reality and recompose ourselves. If it is true that life is self-regulating, then how do we find respite in a constantly shape-shifting world? We find ourselves saying that we can’t take it anymore, we want to let go, we want more than anything to be free. But how?

Can we trust that there is a larger design to life…something that we can’t comprehend? Is there more? Is it what we are looking for? Where will all of this change lead us? It is overwhelming.

So where do we go from here? Are we lost or are we simply moving to a higher level of existance? If we take a look at the geographical evolution of Planet Earth, large scale change is often a destructive process. As we all know, we can weather only so much destruction in our own lives before we break and shatter to pieces. How much more will there be for us to endure? The course of humanity is in a period of tremendous shifting in consciousness, and we are not over it yet.

I could give you the typical platitudes that everything is going well, that change is a good thing, that humanity will survive etc., etc. but I don’t really want to do that. A little whining and complaining sometimes is a good thing too. It relieves stress. And after all is said and done, we choose in what moment we want to live.

We can control the outcome, you see. We can see into the future if we want to. It’s all about choice. What we choose to do now in this moment will unfold into time. Whose life is this anyway? Choose. Are you willing to be abundant? Are you willing to be free? Can you allow yourself to give from your joy and your pleasure? Set your sights on a better tomorrow and energy will follow.

Allow yourself to flow through your experiences as the truth of your moment. But then the moment is gone, and you are here again finding your way in a new moment of time. This is how reality gets constructed. The answer is not “out there.” Reality is a work-in-progress, and we are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.  We are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.  We are the Creator Beings who make the choices that form reality.

So the question becomes, what do you want? We hold the handle on progress. We create change.

Where we stand right now in this moment in time is a product of our former choices.

So, now we know what we know. We can begin again with awareness and with consciousness. And with this knowledge, we can set the stage for what is to come. We don’t need to fight. We don’t need to worry.

Take care of the moment and the rest will take care of itself. You are in charge. Remember that You are the Creator here.

I am here to tell you these three things:
1) You are right where you should be.
2) If you want more, you are in charge.
3) Change comes from within yourself. You are the Creator.

You are the Creator.

What more could you ask for than this?

For more exciting and enlightening information visit http://www.lilystruth.com to learn about Lily’s Truth.

How to Raise a Happy Kid: Part 1 by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth, www.lilystruth.com

by Susan A. Haid

When all is said and done, as parents and caregivers, more than anything else we want our children to be happy.   In providing for our child’s happiness, where does our responsibility begin and where does it end?  As a mother of three active, inquisitive and involved children, I can tell you that my kids never stop asking for what they want.  If I obliged every request, there would be no end to the fulfilment of their needs and desires.   And in this puzzle, where do I fit in?

Being a happy Mom is also part of the formula, you see.  My kids, like most other kids their age, are involved in sports, music, dance and more.  They also have a very active social life with their friends.  As you know, this requires a big commitment on my part to ensure that all of these activities happen on a regular basis.

So, on the days when we don’t have plans readily in place comes the inevitable question, “What are we doing today?” which is always followed by the expected yet incessant response, “I’m bored.”

In empowering my children, I realize that my kids must learn to take responsibility for managing their own happiness when they have time to themselves.  Now, we all know what kids do when they’re bored. They fight with each other.  It’s a game for them, it’s fun and it kills time.  This also can push even the likes of Mother Theresa over the edge within a matter of seconds.

So what is a parent/caregiver to do?  I have learned that a good measure of patience is required to get through the initial phase of boredom kids will experience.  Then there is the consequent whining, pouting and demanding that will initially ensue.  This is when I make a few firm, non-negotiable statements to my children that today they must entertain themselves.  Ofcourse, the emotional manipulations continue for a good long while, but then my kids seem to figure something out.

I have watched my kids make choices to entertain themselves based on the resources they have at home.   This is the birthplace of imaginative play and creative activities. This is when my kids walk out the door to play with rocks, sticks, dirt and grass.  This is when they enter the magical and wondrous world of their imaginations.  It’s getting beyond the initial resistance that is the hardest part.  I have learned to stand my ground and not give in to the whining, complaining and demanding because something wonderful is about to happen.

Some of the most beautiful experiences I have had in teaching my kids to take responsibility for entertaining themselves has occurred while we have been outdoors.  Out in the forest or by a stream, there is so much naturally available to keep a kid occupied without the crutch of a computer game, ipod or television.   Once a child gets immersed in nature, hours will pass by without a peep.  The next amazing thing that happens is that the child begins to relax and let go of the need to seek stimulation from other people or from technology.  With every hour a child is submersed in the magical world of nature, the child innately returns to his or her own peaceful state of being.  This is so healthy for our children.

Kids need down time.  Kids need time to be alone with themselves.  Some kids are better at being alone than others, but inevitably, time alone (preferably out in nature) is profoundly healing and balancing for each and every child.  It is also deeply restful and nuturing for parents and caregivers. 

Every now and then, make a point to walk away from life completely.  Teach your kids how to do it to.   Teach your kids also how to enjoy their own company.  This may seem inconsequential, but you have just unwittingly instructed your children on how to manage their own happiness.  This is simple, elegant and empowering.  This will bring peace and balance to your family and your life.  This will teach your children how to care for themselves and their tender inner spirits.   Everyday life is stressful for everyone, but you can always choose to leave it all behind for a few hours at a time.   This is a skill we teach our children by example.

Saying “no” to the constant demands to provide for a child’s happiness and “yes” to a child’s opportunity to fill their own time in a peaceful and nurturing setting is a great way to empower your child.   Give your children the gift of themselves.  Help them to become supremely comfortable in their own energy.  You are supporting the development of their sovereignty in doing so, and this is a most beautiful and blessed unfolding that is a result of liberating the inner spirit.

For more information about empowering kids, teens and families, or for more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth, visit www.lilystruth.com for more exciting details.

Smokin’ Hot Mama by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

by Susan A. Haid

Over the past 46 years of my life, I have learned a thing or two about myself. There has been nothing extraordinary about me or my life circumstances. I am an ordinary woman who has lived an ordinary life. Well, except for the part of me that talks to dead people. But hey, other than that one little thing, I’m just a normal gal. That is another story for another time. In spite of my otherwise conventional life, I have come to a place where I can fully accept myself…all of me…the good, the bad, the ugly, the normal and the not-so-normal. Although this might seem to be a natural evolution of maturity, it is actually a profound transformation that forever changes everything. What I now know is that a little bit of “crazy” can be a good thing, a very good thing indeed.
You see, when I started to live freely without self-judgment, then I started truly living. I no longer care about the full figure I am wearing at midlife. Instead, I can see my own beauty, even if society cannot. I wear clothes that are comfortable, flowing and lovely. I no longer worry about dieting. I concern myself only with joy, health and balance. Happiness certainly must be correlated with health and longevity, but I don’t need a scientific study to prove it. If I happen to die a premature death, I die a happy person. So there you are.
Later in life, I have taken up belly dancing, opera singing and painting just for the fun of it. I don’t expect to be very good at these things but I do have fun. At this point in life, having fun is, well, just so much more fun than being good. And I love that I don’t have any rules to follow…hmmm, when did the rules get to be so important anyway?
When I am with other people, I don’t care about anything other than just having a good time. In fact, my bottom line has become all about the fun factor. I now choose to be around people who can laugh and be merry, who are lighthearted and joyful, and yes, who can party like there is no tomorrow. Although it may be irreverent, I can laugh at almost anything. After throwing a party, I chuckle at the number of wine bottles in my recycle bin.
I love to be with people who are accepting and free-spirited. I seek out friends who have no need or desire to view the world through the eyes of judgment and control. I believe in progress through conscious awareness but not through moral condemnation. The one thing I still need to work on is my acceptance of self-righteous, condemning people; I avoid them like the plague and have not found my peace within their presence as of yet. In fact, these folks irritate me more than anyone else, at least for now. In spite of my overall Zen demeanor, these types still cause me to bristle. But my new, enlightened strategy is to find a way to joke about it. My current irritations are great fodder for some very funny stuff as you might imagine; humor really does diffuse the irritation.
I engage in conversations freely and openly, no longer worrying about what I might say. I am authentic and true to myself. I try to laugh as much as possible whenever and wherever possible. I am serious by nature, but I am learning the art of living with grand humor. I have learned to laugh at myself, and OMG, I am hilarious.
It no longer matters to me that my kids are not the most well-behaved children on the block or may not get the best grades. What matters to me is that they are learning through their own experience and cultivating their own brand of wisdom of which self-acceptance is a part. In liberating myself, I have unwittingly liberated my children. This alone is profound and very blessed.
I don’t worry about morality because that is just another form of judgment and control. Instead I live by my one cardinal rule which is Compassion. My life became very simple and unencumbered when I finally let go of all my silly judgments and rules. I didn’t suddenly become wildly reckless and outrageously irresponsible as a result. I have become instead deeply loving and accepting of all people and all ways of living. This also helped me see the world quite clearly. Mostly, I can feel my own joy, and it feels really, really good.
In my past life, I had a perfect body, a gorgeous face and lots of attention from men (not to mention a whole boatload of repression). Today, what really tickles my fancy is that it is no longer the men who tell me that I’m sexy, it’s the women. I have had many women blurt out that they think I’m sexy, and I can assure you that there is nothing about me that meets our cultural standard of “sexy.” I am full-figured, fine-lined, stretch-marked, saggy, baggy and perfectly, ecstatically, joyfully happy. I have thrown my head back and laughed out loud more than once when told by a woman that I am sexy. However, what these women are sensing is an inner sexy that has nothing to do with superficial appearances.
I am wearing the look of genuine warmth, joy, peace and acceptance, and these attributes are monumentally magnetic in a world weary of surface appearances, masks and games. In telling my story, I am telling the story of liberation, acceptance, true happiness and lasting beauty that never ages, needs Botox or loses sex appeal. At midlife, I am one smokin’ hot mama.
If I am fortunate enough to become a smokin’ hot granny, I hope I am that ridiculous old gal who wears a rhinestone-studded cowboy hat, an oversized t-shirt and thigh-high vinyl boots when she dances for her lover. I hope I break a few ribs with extreme, insufferable, side-splitting laughter. I hope I have a few too many glasses of cabernet and way too much chocolate. I hope I love everyone I meet with shameless, furious, passionate abandon. I hope to become an eccentric old bird who didn’t waste a moment of her life on the things that don’t really matter. If I get my way, I have about 40 smokin’ hot years left, and there’s no good reason I can think of for turning back now.
Does this mean I am going to ride off naked into the sunset on a Harley? Maybe it does. And from now on, when you hear me counting calories, I am just figuring out how hot it’s getting in here. Oh, and can you pass me a fork? I’m digging in…

For more information about Susan A. Haid and Lily’s Truth visit www.lilystruth.com.

The ZEN of Parenting by Susan A. Haid, Author/Producer, Lily’s Truth

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by Susan A. Haid

The world is full of spiritual ideals, and for this, I am grateful. There is nothing I love more than delving into the bigger picture of who we are and why we are here. Exploring consciousness is such a marvelous journey, but at the end of the day, I also embrace the most practical, applicable elements of my discoveries and new understandings. What I laugh about is how often I hear the same spiritual truths over and over again, yet each time I have a deeper appreciation of their eternal meaning. As I continue to grow and evolve, as we all do, I get a clearer and more beautiful picture of life and its inherent wisdom.
Applying wisdom to parenting is certainly experimental is some ways yet not entirely so. And you certainly don’t need to have years and years of parenting experience under your belt to parent with ease and with joy. You also don’t need to have years of spiritual seeking behind you to parent with wisdom. I have three children. As every parent knows, every day is a new adventure, a new experience and a new challenge. What I am learning to do is come to the parenting process with a clean canvas in every moment. I have learned with practice to get out of my head. The thinking mind has its own set of beliefs and its controls. This is fine to a point.
Now, I am not proposing unconscious parenting devoid of logic or reason. What I am proposing instead is very conscious parenting; this type of parenting requires us to let go of all our preconceived ideas and controls imposed by our thinking mind. When we sit in the space of inner stillness, the place of no judgment or control, we actually open the door to higher understanding. We give ourselves the room to perceive events from a place that is truly a superior form of intelligence…the type of expansive intelligence that might be called intuitive. We then use our thinking mind to apply this innate and pure wisdom to our life circumstances.
So many people believe that wisdom must be earned but I can tell you otherwise. Step outside of your thinking mind from time to time and give yourself the gift of “no thought.” Simply allow yourself to be in this place of seeming nothingness, which is actually a pool of unlimited potentials. Play with this exercise as you parent your children. As you develop your skill, you will have amazing insights into yourself, your children, and your family among other things. You just may discover that the answers you’re looking for are innate to you. You may be able to let go of all your controls and find out that there is another way to parent that is better for you as well as for your kids.
Yes, this takes some conscious effort, but the rewards are worth it. The answers may come when you least expect them. The most beautiful part of intuitive parenting is that the answers and solutions are unique to you and your family. This does not imply that you cannot draw solutions from all around you, but it does imply that you are the final authority. This is an empowered way to live and to parent. It is a new way to find creative solutions and solve problems.
Much like the artist who works upon a clean canvas with each new creation, you can step outside of the ideas of your thinking mind and work from a very pure place of higher understanding to create your life in the most beautiful, original and unconventional way.
Although it has been said before, your life is your art. Why work from a soiled canvas when there is a clean, new one waiting for you?
For more exciting information about conscious parenting and raising children in wonderful new ways, or for more information about Lily’s Truth and Susan Haid, visit http://www.lilystruth.com.

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